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Some questions to help inform your life

 

 

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Some questions to help inform your life

 

A year from now you will wish you had started today.

— Karen Lamb

“They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.”

– Andy Warhol

 

The aim of these questions is to help stimulate insights and/or to help provide a new perspective.

 

  1. What are my core values and drivers right now?
  2. Who am I becoming?
  3. What am I settling for?
  4. Where do I focus my attention?
  5. How am I using my gifts?
  6. What would I like to learn right now?
  7. What am I holding onto that I no longer need?
  8. How much time do I spend with people who inspire me?
  9. How much time do I spend with people that drain me?
  10. What would I do if I knew I couldn’t fail?
  11. How can I be happy in my career?
  12. How can I be sure that my relationship with my family is an enduring     source of happiness?
  13. How can I live my life with integrity?
  14. What one thing could I change for the better right now?
  15. Who do I need to speak to or seek help form to achieve any desired change(s)?
  16. How will I know that I have achieved a specific change?
  17. Do I need to prioritise or sequence these changes?
  18. Is there another question I want to ask to inform my thinking?

 

 

Putting it together (considering importance right now to you and interdependencies).

 

Questions What does this mean for me? What will I do?
What are my core values and drivers right now?

 

Who am I becoming?

 

What am I settling for?
Where do I focus my attention?
How am I using my gifts?

 

What would I like to learn right now?

 

What am I holding onto that I no longer need?

 

How much time do I spend with people who inspire me?

 

How much time do I spend with people that drain me?

 

What would I do if I knew I couldn’t fail?

 

How can I be happy in my career?
How can I be sure that my relationship with my family is an enduring source of happiness?
How can I live my life with integrity?
What one thing could I change for the better right now?

 

Who do I need to speak to or seek help from to achieve any desired change(s)?

 

How will I know that I have achieved a specific change?

 

Do I need to prioritise or sequence these changes?

 

Is there another question I want to ask to inform my thinking?

 

WHAT HAVE I LEARNED FROM CONSIDERING ALL OF THESE INSIGHTS?

 

“The best thing you can do is the right thing; the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing; the worst thing you can do is nothing.” -Theodore Roosevelt

 

You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” –A.A. Milne

 

SIGNATURE STRENGTHS

REVIEWING AND IMPROVING YOUR THINKING

THINKING SKILLS

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

DOLPHIN WEB

 

Coaching Questions Insights

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COACHING QUESTIONS

Asking good coaching questions is at the heart of effective coaching regardless of coaching model.  It does not matter what type of coaching approach you trained in, all approaches use questions to uncover individual thought processes.  Coaching questions aim to uncover, explore, reflect upon and challenge your client’s thought processes.

Coaching questions tend to fall into five categories. You may find it helpful to work through each category writing down as many questions as you can think of that would fit.  Thinking about current clients will help you focus on the types of questions that would be most useful and you can then try these out in your next session.

1. Questions aimed at Clarification: These types of questions are aimed at getting behind the concepts that underpin your client’s thought processes.  

For example, “What does that mean to you?”, “How does what you’ve said relate to your current situation?” or “What types of situations challenge you?”  These questions are more akin to asking basic open questions aimed at eliciting information.  However, apart from information gathering they give you the opportunity to gain an understanding of your client’s thinking style.

2. Questions aimed at uncovering assumptions: Most people make assumptions about themselves, others and the world in general without ever realizing they do this or questioning these. Asking probing questions helps the client uncover the assumptions s/he is making and provides an opportunity to question the validity of such assumptions.

For example, “How do you know your boss does not like you?”, “What are your colleagues doing that makes you think you are not doing a good job?”, or “What would happen if you did say no?”

3. Questions that look for evidence: Following on from the concept that all human beings make assumptions, the next stage is to help the client consider what evidence s/he uses that underpins their reasoning. Individuals often think they have sound evidence for a course of action or a belief when, in-fact, their thoughts are not well informed at all.

For example, “What evidence are you basing your thoughts on?”, “What examples are you using to back-up your thinking?”, or “How do you know that to be true?”

4. Questions that challenge the client’s views: These types of questions are aimed at helping clients consider alternative positions as a way of reframing thoughts while also helping the client develop a better internal mechanism on which to base future thinking.  

For example, “What other factors could have contributed to this situation?”, “What makes it essential to act now?”, “If you consider how you are dealing with the situation compared to your colleague who you said was dealing with it more effectively, what would you say is the difference?”

5. Questions that evaluate consequences and implications: This type of question considers the potential outcomes and associated implications of a course of action.  The client can then consider whether these make sense and are desirable as potential outcomes.  

For example, “What would happen then?”, “Why is X important?” or “If you followed that line of thinking through where would you end up?”

It takes time to develop the art of asking

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This is a document re-listing all the powerful and brilliant comments shared by Coaches, members of the ICF group on linkedin during the month of October-November 2010.
The question asked by Coach Dorcas Manou Lasme Adou, Founding Director of imPROOV (www.improovcoaching.com), the 1st coaching practice in French-speaking West Africa was:
‘MOST POWERFUL COACHING QUESTION:
Let us all benefit from each other’s experience regarding powerful questioning. Please share the Coaching question you consider MOST POWERFUL, and please state the client context, challenge or situation it is best used in.’
Thank you to everyone who participated. Hooray for our clients and for great Coaches!

There are 3 parts in this document:
1. List of powerful questions classified by category (List of all questions shared as of 12/11/10)
2. Notes on powerful questioning (All comments made regarding asking powerful questions.)

3. Websites

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